It's my birthday

35 thoughts on 3/5

I absolutely and completely love my birthday. I wholeheartedly love a personal holiday. I even made an Instagram reel about how to create your own. I love being alive. I am deeply grateful for this mysterious experience of being a human, in this particular body, at this particular time. Of course I experience anguish and existential crises, pain and the whole spectrum of problems that come with living a life. Regardless, I am here for it all.

Below are 35 thoughts, in no particular order.

1. Reflection is nourishing. Both internally and when shared with others. I love being asked questions more than being given advice.

2. My body heals and transforms. It grows life. It has been opened and sewn shut. And even when it has betrayed me, I have been lucky enough to sort it out.

3. Change is hard, uncomfortable and necessary.

4. Staying agile is essential—in body, mind, and spirit.

5. I am the river and the river is me.

6. I want to read more books. There will be a season of life when I have more idle time to catch up on them.

7. Manifestation is powerful and real, especially when met with action.

8. There is more than one soulmate in a lifetime.

9. Surrounding myself with people of all ages and walks of life is essential.

10. Interdependence is the lens I want to live and move through.

11. I am a matriarch.

12. I am a writer.

13. Declaring and being who you are is one of the greatest gifts you can offer the world.

14. Share joy. Celebrate often.

15. I <3 therapy.

16. Friends are family.

17. Show up for those you love. Give your time. It is the most honorable resource we have to share.

18. Generosity of spirit goes a long way.

19. Code switching is not it. Stay authentic.

20. Wake up. Show up. Connect.
    (Thank you to the great Dr. Beverly Morse.)

21. Do things alone. Find your solitude.

22. Meditation is important, but challenging to practice consistently.

23. Listening is a superpower.

24. My favorite way to hold court is with silence. The next time someone is baiting you or being rude, try saying nothing. Hold their gaze. The shift in power is palpable.

25. Be radical. Challenging belief systems, especially your own, can feel life-threatening, but it is actually life-giving.

26. Avoid chaotic, dramatic people. They are draining and light dimming.

27. Know the difference between moving fast and moving slow.

28. Learn to create and hold boundaries without becoming rigid.

29. Go to the doctor.

30. Fear is a low vibration to operate from.

31. Honor the ancestors. Talk to them.

32. Writing lists is chic.

33. A little pettiness isn’t the worst thing.

34. Physical touch is healing.

35. Knowledge and wisdom don’t always arrive together.

A collage homage to my baby self and myself when I was growing my baby.

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I have found my way on social media, finally!

I started to share these fun and fast videos highlighting the things I love and want. You can shop my favorite fine jewelry finds from The Real Real and Ebay. I also made a curated list of the best mirrors on Etsy because who doesn’t love a little self reflection? And of course, a few makeup essentials because I’m just a girl.